The family is like the forest: if you are outside, it is dense; if you are inside, you see that each tree has its own position.

We as individuals are selfish, when it comes to our own wants & Needs especially satisfying own self esteem there is nothing, we can do about it as its ingrained in our spine not to bend, yet they are few instances we have settle for the things we are not ready for.

As this Research paper is about the child's perspective towards the Separation of its parents with door of life with a rough path.

Family as sweet the word sounds come with a lot promises and determination to spend their life together till the death apart them, yet few couldn't have the conviction to carry this wedlock due to various reasons, circumstances leave each other for their own endeavors that is called divorce.

Divorce usually means children lose daily contact with one parent most often fathers. Decreased contact affects the parent-child bond and according to a paper published in 2014, researchers have found many children feel less close to their fathers after divorce.

Divorce as it sounds to individually not willing to spend their future together, without thinking of the child's hazed future. A valuable life is at stack with an unexpected upcoming a lot goes around that small mind who is unable to understand what will be happening around him, which both parents should consider before separation.

Child needs both mother and father for a balanced nurture for become a responsible individual if one of them leaves the hand the life of the child will not able get those teaching which are required in the early part of his life.

These was a instance I saw inside court in Delhi high court a Writ has been filled in front of a Division bench by the father to meet this child once a week any day which was convenient for the parties, child age was 10 years arguments were happening submissions going on generally these are very delicate matters, Hon'ble Judges called the mother and child for an interaction, subsequently father was called afterward out that father will granted custody for the child from today itself and the order was passed, as the father was getting close the child, he becomes defensive not willing to go was holding mothers cloths as he is some stranger, father tired to constant effort to the child understand yet this continue for 10 minutes, it was a distress situation to watch, immediately after looking at the situation order was reversed, it concluded one thing in a very impactful way divorces do leave hard imprint on children's mind.

A Child must face a lot will all this ups & downs all that while he just wants to stay with his parents happy excepts pugnacious.

Kids may feel angry about divorce. If you think about it, it makes sense. Their whole world is changing  and they don't necessarily have much input.

There is instance we have seen inside the court premises child get separation anxiety which in cases occurs when custody is granted to Father, following are the few symptoms

• clinging to parents
• extreme and severe crying
• refusal to do things that require separation
• physical illness, such as headaches or vomiting
• violent, emotional temper tantrums

In much of the divorce cases, it's clear that kids are resilient. The effects of separation tend to be more challenging in the first 1 to 3 years.

Which can be fatal for the development, Addition to this there's one more Illness child may go through Depression. Even more concerning, a few are also at higher risk of suicide threats or attempts. While these issues can impact kids of any age, they tend to be more prominent with kids ages 11 years and older. And boys may be more at risk of suicidal thoughts than girls.

While observing everything in between their parents they tend to have wind up in the same position as their parents in the future.

To procure and safe our children to from the devastating mental setbacks we as parent need to make the divorce process smooth enough, we must agree a child needs both parents as they are the foundation of his life, it's not about the custody of child it's about the overall development with most important Psychological health of the child.

For the understanding tell your child about logistics (who's moving out, where they're moving, what visitation might look like, etc.), and it's assuring to them if there's some framework in place.

Consider telling your child's teacher a day or so before you tell your child. This gives the teacher a heads up if your child begins acting out or needs support. Of course, you can also request that the teacher doesn't mention it to your child unless your child mentions it to them.

Have a conversation with your child, so child can absorb and understand the situation.

The paramount consideration should be the welfare of the child and due weight should be given to child's ordinary comfort, contentment, health.[1]

All small factors should consider for the wellbeing of the child which are as follows:
Helping Kids Adjust
Adults who experienced divorce during childhood may have more relationship difficulties. Divorce rates are higher for people whose parents were divorced.
Parents play a major role in how children adjust to a divorce. Here are some strategies that can reduce the psychological toll divorce has on children:

Co-Parent Peacefully
Intense conflict between parents has been shown to increase children's distress. Overt hostility, such as screaming and threatening one another has been linked to behavior problems in children.3 But minor tension may also increase a child's distress. If you struggle to co-parent with your ex-spouse, seek professional help.

Avoid Putting Kids in the Middle
Asking kids to choose which parent they like best or giving them messages to give to other parents isn't appropriate. Kids who find themselves caught in the middle are more likely to experience depression and anxiety.

Maintain Healthy Relationships
Positive communication, parental warmth, and low levels of conflict may help children adjust to divorce better. A healthy parent-child relationship has been shown to help kids develop higher self-esteem and better academic performance following divorce.

Conclusion
Even though divorce is tough on families, staying together for the sole sake of the children may not be the best option. Children who live in homes with a lot of arguing, hostility and discontentment may be at a higher risk for developing mental health issues and behavior problems.

Consequently, following a parental separation, it's normal for kids to struggle with their feelings and their behavior immediately afterwards, for reduce the complications parents must be conscious and think from the child's perspective, by way of awareness with the child mental health will put great effort for the better upbringing of the child, I would love to add this at last, parents have a greater responsibility towards the child before themselves.
May 19, 2021

End-Notes:

1. Lahari Sakhamuri Vs Sobhan Kodali On 15 March, 2019 CRIMINAL APPEAL NO(S). 500 OF 2019

Written By Mridul. Y. Suri