Same sex marriage means marriage between two people who belong to the same
gender or sex. They enter into a religious or a civil marriage ceremony. By same
sex marriage we mean marriage between gays (boy marrying a boy) and lesbians
(girl marrying a girl). Same sex marriage legalization can help an individual to
own up to his individuality and can finally be themselves. It also provides a
brighter path for the people of the LGBTQ+ community.
The records of same sex marriage can be tracked down those dates back to the
first century and the first country to legalize same sex marriage was the
Netherlands in April 2001 where in two men married each other within a month of
As of 2021, 29 countries have legalized same sex marriage some of them being:
- Argentina - 12th November 2009
- Australia - 9th December 2017
- Brazil - 14th May 2013
- Canada - 20th July 2005
- United Kingdom - 2013 (legalization of the marriage happened at different
times in parts of UK)
- United States - 26th June 2015
Powerful countries like United Kingdom and United States boost other countries
to follow their footsteps as well.
There are 33 countries as of today who have a different outlook to same sex
marriage and its views on legalizing this act of marriage. Countries like
Armenia, Belarus, Dominican Republic, etc have stated that same sex marriage
goes beyond the laws of nature and hence prevented same sex marriage in their
countries. Countries who follow the Islamic Law by nature have interpreted same
sex marriage as a crime and is hence prohibited in their countries.
The definition of same sex marriage is deferred from country to country
according to their law and beliefs as well. But there are many who have
challenged the countryís court questioning as to why same sex marriage isnít
legal. Throughout the years, people have either faced failure or success with
regards to same sex marriage being legalized or not. It becomes a matter of the
people as well. If the ruling isnít in the favour of the mass public who want
same sex marriage legalized, it could be proved harmful for the country as the
people could turn their back and go against the country.
Same sex marriage is a human and a civil right and should be recognized holy.
Those who are in mass support of the same sex marriage are mostly human rights
or civil rights organisation and scientific and medical communities who support
the same sex marriage and over the years, according to surveys and polls
conducted, it is shows that there is a rise in the supporters every year. This
is so because people are getting aware of their surroundings and have a firm
idea of what is right and what is wrong. But there still a few who are against
the same sex marriage taking place. Such people mostly are from the religious
Marrying someone to the same sex isnít a crime. There is no mention that people
belonging to the same sex canít get married to each other and that the act is
unholy. The simple definition of marriage is - it is a matrimony or wedlock
between two people known as spouses. The definition speaks nothing about who and
what gender can marry each other.
There are scientific studies that prove how same sex marriage benefits the two
beings. With the help of marriage, studies shows that marriage enhances the
financial, psychological and physical well-being of the gay or lesbian couple.
Children who are brought up in such households are comparatively well brought up
and are more open minded and have the ability to take up views of other people.
They also grow up well when the society recognizes their parentís marriage and
even support them, in other words, if the law accepts the marital union and is
supported by social institutions.
The rise in the interest of same sex marriage increased during the late
20th century as there was a positive shift in the attitude towards
Some say that being married to the same sex excludes the possibility of having
their own child. This a myth. A couple of the same sex can have their child via
surrogacy or adoption. There are many options available for a same sex married
couple to have their child, even though a lot of people question the ability of
the couple to raise a child without a mother or a father.
Some even state that
being raised without a mother or a father has its own disadvantages. This is no
such thing. A child needs parental love for growing up and the child is being
provided with all the knowledge, education and love that is also given to the
child who is born in a family that has both a mother and a father. Parents in
the same sex marriage can also provide for the child financially.
It is also observed that in countries like the US, after same sex marriage was
legalized, a study was done regarding suicide. The count of suicide declined by
a huge margin as the country legalized same sex marriage. Many lead researchers
have stated that since the change in law on same sex marriage was brought into
action, it has given rise to the gay/lesbian couples and teenagers a hope that
there is a bright future for them in times ahead.
The mention of same sex marriage was earlier made during the time of the Roman
Empire. The teenage Emperor Elagabalus was the first to get married to his
chariot driver, Hierocles as his husband and then later had another marriage
with an athlete named Zoticus in a lavish public ceremony.
The first Roman Emperor who had gotten married to a man was Nero, who got
married twice to two individuals of the same sex.
It was during the 1970s and 1990s when the support of same sex marriage began.
Though a lot of people shunned and threatened the supporters, it didnít stop
them from backing out from the movement of allowing same sex marriage. Many were
furious with regards to such movements being initiated and taking place which
could send a wrong message to the society and the young feeble-minded children.
Many scholars also state that same sex marriage was recognized by Roman Catholic
Churches during the medieval Europe.
Problems Faced In The Society
Couples who come out of the closet are mostly not accepted by their respective
parents. Some parents who are open minded can accept their kids as to who they
are and would be proud. While some couples confide in their own mothers but are
unable to open up to their fathers as they are strong headed and they know that
fathers wouldnít be keeping an open mind unlike the mothers.
Couples are often looked down upon as unnatural and unholy. Some religious
groups comment that being lesbian or gay or anything from the LGBTQ+ is a
disease and it can be cured. In reality, it is not a disease. Itís a personís
own choice as to who he loves and with whom he/she wants to spend his life with.
All the accusation by religious groups is refuted by the scientific studies that
are carried out in many parts of the world. Statements like, being married to
the same sex is like going against the natural laws of a male and female getting
married. Such statements are refuted. It is not a sin to fall in love and get
married to the same gender.
Getting married to the same sex is often misinterpreted by the society. Society
goes on about saying that people who get married to the same sex are promoting
homosexuality. People of the 21st century are way more open minded as they are
aware of all forms of human.
Getting adoption rights become difficult for people to achieve. Some countries
donít allow same sex married couple to adopt children. They have a myth that a
child who grows in a same sex household would have a skewed version of a family.
They even face economic problems as they arenít allowed to open joint bank
accounts. Hospital visitation isnít allowed to them.
The couple is disregarded from the society as the family in a society is made up
of a man and woman only.
Same Sex Marriage Around The World
There are many countries who have legalized same sex marriage while some
governments of countries like Chile, Cuba, Thailand have the same sex marriage
legalization under consideration. These small steps are huge for gay and
lesbians as it is a step forward for them to have a better future together.
There are times when a same sex couple has to get married, they move away from
their own country which doesnít allow same sex marriage. They move away to
countries that have legalized same sex marriage even though it can be termed as
a problem for them.
There are countries like Japan who have legalized the relationship of same sex
but havenít legalized same sex marriage. Even though the marriage isnít
legalized, the couple is given beneficial opportunities which also include
hospital visitation rights, etc.
India too has faced backlash for not allowing the legalization of same sex
marriage. In 2018, homosexuality was decriminalized, Section 377 was ended.
Earlier, India too had same sex marriage termed unholy. But since 2018, it was a
step forward the country to legalize same sex marriage as many are raising the
legalization of the marriage in the court. Though some states have given
recognition to same sex couple living together.
A Public Interest Litigation (PIL) was filed in the Supreme Court seeking the
legalization of same sex marriage under the Hindu Marriage Act. The petitioners
Gopi Shankar, Abhijit Iyer-Mitra, G. Oorvasi, and Giti Thadani have argued on
the basis that there is in no language in the act that restricts the same sex
marriage and that marriage shouldnít be restricted to only a holy matrimony
between a man and a woman. It should be open to all genders.
If we look upon our countryís history, there are mentions and depictions of
homosexuality and intersex people. Such depictions have been prevalent across
India majorly during the 18th century during the British rule over India.
Homosexuality then wasnít looked down upon and were in no way seemed or termed
Many surveys and studies were carried out in order to find who are in support of
the same sex marriage. It was observed that over the years, support for same sex
marriage has increased drastically and that people residing in developed
countries have shown immense support. The support has increased across every age
group, religion, race, etc. the support has increased significantly as people
are getting educated and that the younger generation have a clear trend in the
It can be concluded that over the years, there has been a significant rise in
the legalization of matrimony of same sex marriage and there are many people in
support of it. People have come forward and joined hands to support the cause of
being united in terms of accepting the bond between two people irrespective of
their gender. We should be more open to have an insight in the minority
community. Same sex marriage will also have a positive impact as it shows
diversity in the society and there would be a decline in the homophobia that
resides among people.
I, myself, am in support of same sex marriage as it is a human and a civil right
of people to get married to the person of the same sex and their choice. It is a
right for a couple to be happy and be with the person they love. Hence, it can
be stated that same sex marriage is right.